The dating life dating can make you feel all types of ways, from being happy to scary. You can have the perfect date to the worst date and for someone who’s brand new to dating and has no clue how to approach this and wondering what to do on a date, then these eight quick tips should help you out. It will guide you to have at least a decent date hopefully.
Go to places that you are familiar with
For the person organising the dates, this is key for staying calm cool and collected. Humans are habitual creatures. If a professor lets you choose your seats for every class, how much do you want to bet that you end up sitting in the same seat all semester long? We love predictability stability and repetition because it makes us feel safe, the same goes for dates.
If you pick a place that you’re familiar with for your dates, you’ll have more control over the situation and know what to expect. This is especially true for a first date where meeting up is risky enough. Imagine taking them to a new city and ending up nervous in a bad part of town! Avoid potentially negative or even dangerous situation by choosing familiarity at first.
Choose an active date idea
Movies and lunch dates are considered inactive dates. They don’t really create a memorable experience with their dates especially when your date is boring and doesn’t really talk much. It creates a weird and awkward experience. But if you throw in an activity on your dates, it’ll be sure to make you more memorable because of the bond and the experience you both are going through.
Also, if you choose an active date idea, your bodies will feel the adrenaline followed by the calm and peace of completing the activity. Active date ideas release dopamine – the feel-good chemical we associate with pleasant memories and happiness. This person will not only have positive feelings associated with the date, but every time they reminisce on the activity, you’ll be present in their mind.
Chances are you’ll end up walking next to your dates at some point. Whether it’s to the car, the door or to your location, use this time to initiate some casual physical contact. If this person is gutsy, they may take the hint and press your arm back or even hold your hand. If you’re sitting, another variation would be to lean against them and remember don’t sit across from them. This isn’t an interview, the least you can do is sit side by side to create a better bond. Their physical reaction will tell you all you need to know about how comfortable they are with you and how the date is progressing.
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Put your phone away
If you are on a date, you shouldn’t be on your phone all the time. It’s common sense, if you’re on the phone all the time, this shows that you’re uninterested in the date itself.
If you have to use the phone, excuse yourself to go to the restroom so that your date will not see it. If you can’t give them your undivided attention for an hour or two on a date, how could they expect you to be an extensive partner for the long run? Put your phone away and be in the present.
Tell someone where you’re going
Meeting up with new people is fun, but it’s also how most murder series on Netflix begin. Before you worry about what to do on a date, worry about where you’re going. Before the date, tell someone where you’re going. This could be your family member, best friend or roommate. Share where you’re going with who and what time they should expect you back.
If you’re running late, shoot them a text so they don’t worry and trust me it’s better to have someone worrying about you than not. It’s almost like when you’re watching a bad scary movie and the person at home alone walks towards the scary sound in the darkness instead of calling the cops. Be smart and you won’t end up on the big screen.
Surprise them with something small
Big gifts on a first date are really not necessary and sometimes wasteful because the date might not go well, but little surprises will put a smile on your date’s face and mold the day into a more memorable experience. Because then you’ll have more opportunities to surprise them with something bigger later on.
If you both are still dating, these small surprises could be something like picking a flower for them, suggesting a cute spot to sit and enjoy an ice cream or even telling a personal story that shares that intimate side of you. Of course it doesn’t always have to be a gift.
A big key to a successful day is to ask questions. Some people rarely ask questions and aren’t good listeners. Ask deep, open-ended questions and make sure you listen carefully to your date’s answer. These questions usually start with what, how or why. Active listening includes eye contact, nodding your head and follow-up questions. Not only will you show interest in your dates, but you will also learn more about them to see if you both mesh well together.
First dates are big first impressions and the following dates are almost as important. We all want to put our best foot forward and be the best version of ourselves so that this person likes us. The important part of this is making sure you aren’t faking it and that you’re acting like your real self. Don’t try to act like you’ve been a lot of places. If all you do is stay in town, don’t try to flash an expensive outfit if you can’t really afford it. Just be a good version of yourself.
Remember, not all dates will be perfect and go accordingly. Some unexpected things could happen during the date and it might turn into a good thing or a bad thing and if the first date doesn’t work out, it’s totally fine because now you have at least one experience under your belt. You can use that experience to evaluate what you did wrong or right and move on from there. Hopefully you’ll have a better experience in the future.
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