As a parent or adult in a child’s life, teaching them is a right of passage and one of the best things we can do for them. Having said that, not everything that is taught to children is done so with the best of intentions or is necessarily intended for them to see, understand, or see.
What is it that we really need to quit instructing kids? Here are top 10 things that we ought to stop teaching our children:
Gender stereotypes
Children should not be taught that certain behaviors, activities, or preferences are strictly for boys or girls. It’s important to let children explore their interests and express themselves in a way that feels authentic to them, regardless of their gender.
That failure is a bad thing
Children should not be taught to fear failure. Instead, they should be encouraged to take risks, learn from their mistakes, and see failure as an opportunity for growth.
Racial, ethnic, or religious prejudices
Children should be taught to respect people from different cultures, races, ethnicities, and religions. Prejudices can lead to discrimination and harm to individuals or groups of people.
That intelligence is fixed
Children should not be taught that intelligence is fixed or that they are either smart or not smart. Instead, they should be taught that intelligence can be developed through hard work, perseverance, and dedication.
That there is only one way to solve a problem
Children should not be taught that there is only one way to solve a problem. Instead, they should be encouraged to think critically, explore different solutions, and embrace creativity.
That violence is an acceptable way to solve conflicts
Children should not be taught that violence is an acceptable way to solve conflicts. Instead, they should be taught to communicate effectively, listen actively, and seek peaceful solutions.
That their worth is based on external validation
Children should not be taught that their worth is based on external validation, such as grades, awards, or popularity. Instead, they should be taught to value themselves for who they are and to develop a healthy sense of self-esteem.
That emotions should be suppressed
Children should not be taught to suppress their emotions. Instead, they should be taught to express their emotions in a healthy and constructive way, and to develop emotional intelligence.
That beauty standards are rigid
Children should not be taught that there is only one standard of beauty. Instead, they should be taught to appreciate diversity and to embrace their own unique qualities.
That success is measured by material possessions
Children should not be taught that success is measured by material possessions or wealth. Instead, they should be taught to value relationships, personal growth, and making a positive impact on the world.
